Don’t Let Fear Control Your Destiny
Do you think that fear has become one of the important factors that began to influence all the important decisions of your life and thereby limited your growth prospects and destroyed happiness in life? If so, it is time to start recognizing and working to overcome this deficiency in our personality.
Fear enters our lives from early childhood
Have you ever thought that in childhood our biggest fear is to lose our parents? We pray to God for the long life of our parents. One of the reasons for this fear, of course, is our love for our parents. And another reason could be our insecurity. We know that we are small and cannot take care of ourselves. We need parents to take care of our hunger, clothing, housing, education and, above all, love and love.
Society plays an important role in shaping our responses to fear.
Our personalities are not only shaped by our parents, but our teachers, friends, classmates, relatives, elders, and social networks also have a profound influence in our lives. People are good cats. Although they have their own brains, very few of them actually devote time and intelligence to express what is really right and what is wrong. In most cases, we accept things as they are around us, without questioning its holiness.
We see that when people fail in their efforts, by and large the society mocks them, discourages them from other attempts and has a sense of inferiority in relation to people who fail in their attempts. On the other hand, successful people are treated as superstars of real life. Society only remembers its successes, forgetting about the consistent failures that they had to overcome before becoming successful.
At the same time, as soon as successful people begin to fail, society also begins to criticize these people. So the tendency is to put you on top of the world until the moment you succeed, and as soon as you start to fall, throw you from above.
This is more noticeable in the case of politicians, athletes and movie stars. At no point in time is there a realization to the amount of effort and hard work that has been done for many years so that people actually succeed in life. Can you take away the lifelong fighting spirit of a person based on failures in life in a short time?
How fear begins to control decision making
As we grow older, the fear of failure and the reaction of people who are important to us begin to strongly influence the decision-making process. Instead of making efforts and efforts to achieve higher growth and goals in life, we begin to reduce our goals and expectations from life so that we do not fail in life.
The first thing we do is dump our creativity, passion, and our area of interest in life. Instead, we choose a college course that will work with a steady income in life. We simply hate the sense of insecurity that is due to economic uncertainty. Therefore, in order to overcome our fear of uncertainty, we decided to make a safe career as an employee of a large corporation, instead of choosing our job as a professional. Being a self-employed professional, we would be our own Boss, raising our talent and leading an independent professional life, free from the fear of losing your job.
"To avoid fear, you need to go through it, not around " from Richie norton
But to meet short-term concerns, we have compromised our long-term growth. Moreover, in the long run, we will always remain in a state of fear of losing a job, because we have never learned how to make money on our own.
If we could overcome the desire for a safe life, we would even choose a career as an entrepreneur or business owner. As entrepreneurs, we have the opportunity to use the talents and experience of others who may be employees; self-employed professionals, other business owners or investors.
Successful enterprises are managed by people who demonstrate excellent leadership skills and who develop systems and processes that professionals manage their business. This helps entrepreneurs spend more time thinking and expanding their business with their teams. Ultimately, they are able not only to secure a life for themselves, but also to satisfy the satisfaction of many people.
Fear casts a shadow on all walks of life.
Fear can affect your personality in many ways. If you are an introvert, the fear of rejection stops you from talking and making new friends. It prevents you from seeking help from others when you need it. That way, you lose opportunities, even if someone could help you.
“Fear is a habit, so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all these negative habits with two simple solutions: “I can! and I will!"." From unknown
We all have to negotiate at different times. This may be when buying property, finding salaries or the best profiles in interviews, fixing marriages for children, buying expensive items, etc. Those who are afraid that others may laugh at their offers will eventually be dictated by the terms and conditions of another person
Fear of society and loneliness in life are the main reasons for many women not to object and ultimately continue their unhappy married life.
Because of the fear of loneliness in life, many older people continue to live with their children, even after they suffer from humiliation in the hands of children.
The fear of disappointment of others or disappointment disappoints you from risking your life and throwing off decisions that you would otherwise make as a logical and rational person.
The number of failures will always be more than success in life.
The belief that compromising our values, eliminating problems or reducing our goals and expectations from life will give us a safe, secure and fulfilling life is not true.
Life will challenge us. We cannot avoid it. We need to defeat the Demon Fear of Inability, which took control of our Mind. We need to throw this Demon out of our Mind.
What we endure is to understand that the number of failures will always be more than the number of successes in life. There will be so many attempts and so many failures before we ultimately succeed. This is how life works. But if we start to believe that earlier failures are the final places in life, then we will lose Willpower to fight the challenges in life, ultimately losing in life. Success will always remain the final destination, and failures will simply stop in the way of life.
“Our biggest weakness is to give up. The most certain way to succeed is to always try again. ” from Thomas A. Edison